Why does it seem when you think you have a handle on your life, you have a direction and you feel good about the direction you are going and the choices that you are making, you wake up one day and all holy hell has broken loose in your life?!?
What makes it so hard for you to make a different choice? One of the things I see most is people saying they really desire change, yet they do not want to change the choices they are making.
Why is it so difficult for you to make a choice just for yourself when you know it is the very best thing for your life? This is a question for you to look at seriously. How often do we continue on in situations in our lives that we would not consider if it was only about ourselves?
Why does a new person in your life make you feel so wonderful? The whole reason that new people can come into your life is because within that process of being you, you are making conscious choices to have change in your life.
When you make a choice and you receive negative feedback what should you do about it? The first thing I suggest is look at the choice itself. The problem of negative feedback is you so often get lost in the way the feedback is demonstrated back to you.
As I watch and listen to the people I work and interact with, I am seeing a word used so very often without it really having the meaning it should have. When we use words on such a regular basis does it give us the feeling of what they mean or do they just become so the norm that we do not even feel what it means when we are saying them or using them in a sentence?
So, how are you doing with your positive thoughts? When you refuse to deal with the real life issues that are going on in your life you might discover that “positive thoughts” alone don’t change anything. Yes, one of the main reasons that you always feel that no one can hear you, or understand you, is because even though you use terms of peace and harmony, you smile and try and help all around on the outside… you’re cringing inside.
When you first start learning about changing back to your internal being, the one you choose to be when you first started having thoughts, it seems that you have trouble with those that are in your life. They do not trust this new you. Or maybe even they do not want the new you.
On my BlogTalk radio show Self Is Necessary, I was talking about standing in half-truths when making choices for someone else. As I was speaking I realized how it takes a discipline with great resolve for change to maintain making choices just for yourself. You have been making choices for you but really giving priority to what will be easiest for those in your life. In this way you have been making others more important. And you’ve been doing it this way for so long that it is now just a normal thought process.
Why would we not want to tell ourselves the truth? I think we would all most emphatically say, “Of course we want the truth!” Yet I have seen time and time again, when given a choice in the beginning of the introduction of self accountability and responsibility, we choose to believe in the lie; the story that we have told ourselves about our life. Wow! This blew me away when I first started teaching!