So to make a change in one’s life you do what? You wake up in the morning and say I want to be different? Well maybe, but most of the time it has much more to do with not being happy with choices that we seem to be forced to make.
One of the hardest parts of learning to have the truth that ‘Self is Necessary’ work in your life, is knowing how to let go of the guilt and obligation that the whole world wants to put at your doorstep. At least that is how it is perceived by each of us in the very beginning. That does change once you take a look at why your internal emotions allow that to be your story.
When I was stuck in thoughts like, “If I could only have it now”, I found my life very frustrating. I was full of anger and was always upset with the people who shared my life with me. It did not matter if it was at work or at home, family or friends. I just felt all around frustration. I would go to the self-help book section and although I was always reading them, they always left me without the key to unlock the mystery of how to be happy with who I was and with those that I had chosen to share my life.
I have spent lots of hours trying to work with my clients and students about mind chatter. This is probably the most sabotaging work we can do against ourselves. Another way of saying mind chatter is self-destruction. Because of how we hear ourselves talk, we also feel others are saying those same kinds of words. It is really eye-opening as I am listening to a conversation and when hearing each person talk about the conversation they are talking as if two different conversations were going on at the same time.
When you think you are going along fine and then you hear from a friend that they no longer want to participate with you what do you do?
Do you give them the respect of ok, you have that right, and go on.
Do you bother them further for an explanation?
What is the method that we should walk through so our heart does not hurt any more because of the empty feeling that seems to be left there in our heart? Continue reading
As I have worked with clients at Life Learning Center of Self I have begun using the term ‘Stories’. My interpretation of this word is our life experiences. As I work with a client we come to a space where an understanding comes that to make choices has always been our right.
Yet not all of us have found a way of being conscious of when we choose something in our lives. As we get to know one another it allows for the discussions on, ” How to recognize even as a small child our choices” for ourselves. Continue reading
You would think, because we all have feelings, that we would all know how to work with them and not against them.
That is not what I have found out up to this date. I have found that most people can not recognize their feelings when I ask them the question, “What do you feel about this or that?”
It is the most basic thing that we have, yet so many people are not in touch with the most basic piece of themselves. Continue reading