One of the things I am noticing about giving opinions is the problem that arises when you are not standing in the truth. I hear so many people who believe that learning to stand up for themselves means being able to say anything that bugs them about anything… and they claim that is the truth and their right of passage.
I was talking with one of my clients and I was very impressed with how she was standing up for her parameters. She was having a small get together for her birthday. She had asked two people to go and she was going to pay. The next thing she knew, one of the people she asked started inviting another couple to the supper. She was triggered by this , but as she thought about this she enjoyed the company of the second couple so said nothing of the additional people. She did look at the cost of the group now going to be six instead of the original 4.