What does it mean to stand in your heart and be truthful to yourself? What does it mean when we feel a yearning in our inner being that does not seem to go away no matter what we try and do to make changes in ourselves?
When we are working on changing ourselves so that we can truly be happy, we must begin by looking at ourselves and where we sit in our opinions and beliefs. Before we go anywhere else we must look at the truth of the beliefs and opinions we currently hold.
I always felt like I should try and fit in. I am a very social kind of person and so to be with people is what I have gravitated to. Yet, I always felt apart from them all. I did not see the need for intrigue that seems to follow people around when they simply do not tell the truth about themselves. Yet I found myself embroiled in it every time I turned around. Continue reading
I have spent lots of hours trying to work with my clients and students about mind chatter. This is probably the most sabotaging work we can do against ourselves. Another way of saying mind chatter is self-destruction. Because of how we hear ourselves talk, we also feel others are saying those same kinds of words. It is really eye-opening as I am listening to a conversation and when hearing each person talk about the conversation they are talking as if two different conversations were going on at the same time.
As we begin to see that so many of our choices are made under duress, it seems a daunting chore to find ourselves. We have convinced ourselves that there are so many reasons why we should not make choices for ourselves alone. So many that I would like you to send me several of your reasons and I will show you how you got there and some of the things you can do to get back to the real happy you!
When I began to understand the idea that emotion was an energy, like the energy that moves the earth on its axis, I was blown away by how we can hurt ourselves and not even know it. Once I got over that and got up off the floor I began to see that I could learn to harness and use that same energy to change my world. Yes, I said , ” I could change my world.” I have done that very thing. How did I do this? The first thing you have to do is… Continue reading
Would it not be nice to have a mind, body and soul that was in harmony and true peace? Even though we are having a valid, prosperous life… not hiding or living where we have no contrast at all to our thoughts and ideas? Do you want to thrive and be happy? Well, then one of the things we must learn to get rid of is the excess mind chatter that always gets in our way of making a fast and decisive choice! A choice made without second guessing ourselves, which is what creates the havoc in our lives. Continue reading
This is something that at a certain point of working with the understanding of responsibility and accountability, everyone comes and asks me about.
It is a time when my clients and students have been with me for a while and they are learning how to begin to fill their own needs. They are taking the responsibility of seeing their needs and filling them. Yet they have not quite understood how to let go of the idea that the other person showing up around an issue in their life is not stepping up also. Continue reading
I am sure, like myself, you have found yourself wondering, ‘why is my life feeling like it is in a holding pattern?’ Well, if you are in this holding pattern may I suggest you take a deep breath, for in the next second you could find yourself spiraling out into outer space.
Yes, I do mean take a deep breath. Yes I do mean that when we do not take the time to look at our lives and become intimate with them we can find ourselves on the side of a road in the ditch and not know how the heck we got there. Continue reading