Let’s start with a question that has haunted each of you once you began to question and answer your questions with honesty and openness. When you evaluate why you would do anything before you do so, and then truly critique the experience in the whole truth once you have gone through it…
I would like to talk about learned behaviors. These are behaviors that you learned that were meant to serve as a temporary safety net but you lost sight of that. So now we need to talk about how easily you can deflect yourself from finding out the learned behaviors that are now keeping you from standing in your responsibilities and the accountabilities of making the changes to your thoughts and feelings and learning how to use your emotions as the very tool that will change your life.
I know I spend a lot of time on communication and how the most important person to learn to communicate with is yourself. I know I share that you need to be brutally honest with yourself, and that does not mean that you should beat yourself up. It means when you are thinking about an invitation to participate, whether it is directly about you or one of your family or friends, you must talk to yourself like you do when you are sharing secrets about you to that special person that you can share anything with. When it comes to those deep secrets, it should really be you first, then share with others.
Let’s look at a question that will lead you to the discovery of the internal you. Why are you on this quest? When I ask the question and use the term ‘quest’ it is not to have you walk into a fantasy world like Dungeon and Dragon’s, it is for you to begin to look at the truth that this walk to Universal Truth is not just to fix your hurt emotions that you have been storing up since you can remember.
As you are beginning to see, to choose just for yourself you must blend the feel of your value and your heart. You have spent so much time listening to other peoples hearts and what their needs are, and you have done your bloody best to fill them, yet here you are sad, and you feel like with all you do for others, no one else seems to be able to hear that it is your turn.
When you are learning to value yourself you must remember that the most important part of any relationship is love and you must take the accountability that it is your responsibility to make the choices that support the love that you should have for yourself.
There is only one way to truly find your value, your worth, and the love and joy that you desire and deserve to experience. The acceptance that you take the time to find the truth for yourself. What does that mean… take the time? Those words, ‘take the time’… does that sound like beyond what your life style can handle? Are all the responsibilities that you have accepted weighing you down? So how do you then take back time for the spiritual walk you are embarking on?
So you are beginning to walk in this new understanding that you are and have always been totally and completely in charge by the choices that you make for your life. Have you let that course through your veins? Have you taken the time, given yourself the opportunity to let that feeling of being the one and only person to make your choices only for you?
When one talks about communicating does that mean with others? Does that mean with one’s self? Does that mean with the all encompassing Universe for all the answers one could ever hope to have answered?