One of the things that I have always asked my students and clients to do is to journal each day. I share that by doing this you will begin to see how your free thoughts show you how you randomly think about the world and people around you. This is very important when you need to start finding where your learned behaviors are sabotaging your everyday life and the creations that your heart is feeling.
I have been watching and working with couples and I often see when people have stories that have been with them about how they feel about their life before they met the person they choose to share their life with. I hear from both sides how they assume that the other person is the one that should give validation of the things they do in the Universe called their life. I have heard how they share how they would comply with the wishes with the other as though they really cared yet then proceeded to talk the other one into the real way they wanted things to go.
Communication, communication, communication, is the word for the day. Why is this word so very important? The first thing that you truly want to look at is I am not talking about communication with someone else, I am talking about how you are communicating with yourself. I know I keep harping on this but this is the most important communication you can have to change your life.
Okay let’s talk about when you are holding an energy for a creation and you can see it surfacing and yet it is not quite at your fingertips. What do you do to have your dreams come to reality and the most wonderful expression in your life? You are really going to be surprised but the fact is you keep doing what your doing.
You have now been practicing the art of questioning and being your own Guardian. Yet you still are having difficulty in taking those actions steps that stand up for you. It has been so long that you have spent worrying about other peoples feelings and needs it just simply feels wrong to you to stand up for your personal needs. So this simply means you have to continue to evaluate your self- worth over those other’s needs.
Do you spend time getting to know your thoughts? One of the tools that I use with students and clients is that they should take a look at their random thoughts and just follow one thread and see where it takes them. Now you would think that would be a simple enough act, but do you know that most people cannot take more than 30 seconds on any thought?
A question that is often asked is “How do I know when it is my small inner child or a learned behaviour that is affecting my internal choices?” I do want to talk about how each of us have several emotions and then a true feeling/knowing that goes on within our heart and mind as we are asking for new experiences. There is no greater gift we can give ourselves than to be able to see up front and personal how the little child and our learned behaviours are only visible when we are beginning to take charge of our emotional well being. That is because our learned behaviours are incorporated to support a small inner child that at a very early age, because of a story we lived through, without having a Guardian walk with us through the experience so that even as a tiny child we are shown when we could of made a different choice and how that different choice would have showed us how differently the story could’ve been.
In class last evening we spent most of the time going over the homework of looking at the stories that were preventing the students from really walking through the process of evaluating before an event and then right after.
As you wake in the morning do you take the time to just stretch and go into your internal self? To take stock with sweet joy of all the things that your heart has been feeling, the creations that you have been thinking about? Take the time as you begin your day to accept the lessons that you have been asking your questions on. Accept the creations, learn to acknowledge and allow the new to come into your life.
As you are looking at a part of your experience make sure that you always connect it to one of the tools that I have been sharing with you. Such as… asking yourself did you respond because of what was said or done or did you react because of a learned behaviour or maybe it was because that little child within you flared up and reacted before you could truly look at what was actually happening?