How Shame and Guilt Change the Story

Upset little boyIn class last night the group spoke about the lessons that they were focusing on during the previous week. The main theme was how shame and guilt had prevented them from hearing words of wisdom that would have allowed them to hear truths about their stories much sooner. So I ask you how often, when information comes to you, do you deflect it away because it means you have to look at the choices you made in the past out of anger or fear or guilt?

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only one person knows you the best…

So, how are you doing with your positive thoughts? When you refuse to deal with the real life issues that are going on in your life you might discover that “positive thoughts” alone don’t change anything. Yes, one of the main reasons that you always feel that no one can hear you, or understand you, is because even though you use terms of peace and harmony, you smile and try and help all around on the outside… you’re cringing inside.

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Our Choices and Mind Chatter.

As we begin to see that so many of our choices are made under duress, it seems a daunting chore to find ourselves. We have convinced ourselves that there are so many reasons why we should not make choices for ourselves alone. So many that I would like you to send me several of your reasons and I will show you how you got there and some of the things you can do to get back to the real happy you!

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How to learn from a group of life experiences

I have been working extensively on how to look at our life experiences and learn from them. I mean learn how to walk the path of truth without resistance, free of worry and pain. You do not believe that is possible. Hmmm… well I can see that is one of the reasons you have the life experiences you do then. Why? Well… Continue reading

To Be Ok with the choice not to “Change”

In my last post I was speaking about being angry and frustrated about not making the choice of changing your scenario. I have spent much time with my clients about this very thing.

We must accept the idea that we get to make the choice not to change. We should spend a lot of time on the reasons we are using to keep us in the place that makes us so angry.  We need to understand that we get to make the choice to stay where ever we are. We must also remember that we then can not blame the others in the scenario over the choice that we will not change. Continue reading

Taking Time Out of Our Daily Lives

Once we have come  to a place where we are no longer sustaining  happiness in our every day lives, we must stop and take stock of where our thoughts and feelings are. It is right here where we should begin if and only if we need real change in our lives.

It is not easy to change in a single day. Thoughts and feelings that we have continued to keep, whether we wish to admit to ourselves that they are holding us back or not, have become our dearest friends. Continue reading