I was talking with one of my clients and I was very impressed with how she was standing up for her parameters. She was having a small get together for her birthday. She had asked two people to go and she was going to pay. The next thing she knew, one of the people she asked started inviting another couple to the supper. She was triggered by this , but as she thought about this she enjoyed the company of the second couple so said nothing of the additional people. She did look at the cost of the group now going to be six instead of the original 4.
Why is it, do you think, when you set up a parameter to play in, people change it and then claim that they do not want to play in it or stand up for what was originally started? This is a question that I have been pondering for a while. As I look at this question, I am asking myself several questions.
The first one.. I set up the parameter so that everyone that participated could really decide if they wanted to or not. I knew that a certain kind of attitude would need to be held and certain actions would have to be taken in order to participate… question would be: is that still happening ? Continue reading
I have been talking about what I have contemplated on about cheating. Yet, what does that mean to all of us? For as many people as there are on this planet there is half as many again ideas on this subject.
I think that once we begin to look at what is lying beneath our own feelings, we will see that our choices might be something so totally different then what we have claimed in the past. Why do I say this?
I say this because so many times as I look at things I see that there is a microcosm and macrocosm to all and if I only look at the one side of any issue I only have half of the information to make my choice on. Continue reading
As you begin to hear whom you are, you can begin to feel the reason that you are experiencing the things you are in the physical sense.
As I have spoken before, there is a time that you will have to mourn for your inner self. We then must begin to look at the following – do we have the courage to begin standing in peace and love for our selves? Continue reading
What I have found so interesting, about understanding boundaries and parameters, is that I have all the control to any and every thing that happens to me. It was such a huge secret. Yet so very simple to apply in my life.
In my classes we have been working on how not to cross our internal boundaries, and yet know and understand that internal boundaries are not the same as parameters. It has been the subject of my classes for the past couple of weeks. I was surprised to see that most of the class did not know the difference between the two concepts. So much so, that they had some very frustrating following weeks. So, for my first blog I would like to start out with these two parallel, concepts. Continue reading