I have been spending a lot of time working with people to show them that if they simply fill the needs that are in their hearts, that the feeling that they carry within themselves is the gift that they will share with others in their lives.
Why do you walk for just yourself and not others? When I speak to people in the New Age arena, I am always hearing that they want to help others. I ask them Why? They look at me as though I was crazy.
I have so many people ask me how they can know what their needs are. As we are talking they are expressing what they think their needs are. I know that most of us feel our needs are those things like food, clothing, housing, jobs.
How do you stand up for being yourself without having conflict? How do we communicate what our needs and desires are when someone in our life does not want to see how to fill their own needs and still wants you to help them fill theirs?
Of course we had to come to this point where, if we are seeing the bully around us or those that bully us, it really does mean that we can lovingly see that we might… at one time or another… have been the bully as well. Or perhaps we are still the bully.
Self gratification is different from filling your own needs. The first has an outcome that depends on others to have it done for you, where truly filling your needs is an internal process first; Which then allows the internal guidance to lead us to take the steps which will have the fulfillment of our need created. It is done in such a way that each of us knows just how we had our needs fulfillment brought to us… for us… by us.
As we begin to recognize that we have so many things in the way for the choice that we think is so hard to make, we can begin to realize that the undercurrents of our thoughts is another source that gets in our way.
My students and I have been working on the terms DESIRE and NEED. I often hear things like, “My desire is to have this in my Life. My needs are never being met.” So we have begun to spend time on studying these terms. You would think that this would be a simple concept to understand and then incorporate in one’s life. Yet weeks later, here we are still working on these terms and how they affect our lives intimately . Continue reading