One of the things that I have always asked my students and clients to do is to journal each day. I share that by doing this you will begin to see how your free thoughts show you how you randomly think about the world and people around you. This is very important when you need to start finding where your learned behaviors are sabotaging your everyday life and the creations that your heart is feeling.
As the class was looking at the subject that each one of them decided to put the light on for the past week the main theme that came through was how to see ahead of time how one of your old behaviors can be sneaking up on you as you are interacting with people that have nothing to do with the reason you pulled in the behavior.
I have been watching and working with couples and I often see when people have stories that have been with them about how they feel about their life before they met the person they choose to share their life with. I hear from both sides how they assume that the other person is the one that should give validation of the things they do in the Universe called their life. I have heard how they share how they would comply with the wishes with the other as though they really cared yet then proceeded to talk the other one into the real way they wanted things to go.
When you are learning to stand up for the new walk that you are taking what do you do when you find that those around you are now using your vulnerability as you learn to share the deeper parts of who you are?
You have now been practicing the art of questioning and being your own Guardian. Yet you still are having difficulty in taking those actions steps that stand up for you. It has been so long that you have spent worrying about other peoples feelings and needs it just simply feels wrong to you to stand up for your personal needs. So this simply means you have to continue to evaluate your self- worth over those other’s needs.
I am sure when you are thinking about talking to someone that you dearly love and yet you are having some issue or another it seems like it is the worst possible thing to talk about something that is triggering you.
What does sharing do for your spiritual walk? Are you willing to begin opening up your heart to the stories that you have told about your life? The very first thing that you must begin doing is simply share your story. So many people that I talk with have so isolated themselves in their very own life. Yes, that is correct. They have friends and family, they work, they even laugh and seem to be happy with their lives. Yet it is that kind of person that comes to me and they are so terribly sad with everything that is going on.
Do you spend time getting to know your thoughts? One of the tools that I use with students and clients is that they should take a look at their random thoughts and just follow one thread and see where it takes them. Now you would think that would be a simple enough act, but do you know that most people cannot take more than 30 seconds on any thought?
One of the things that I spend a lot of time working on with my students and clients is that once you begin to start communicating with yourself and others and for the first time you are feeling the effects of that communications, you can get hit by emotions when people do not recognize that you are trying to reunite with old friends and family. Because you have had stories that you have used to keep you from participating with your loved ones they have gotten used to a certain kind of behaviour from you.
A question that is often asked is “How do I know when it is my small inner child or a learned behaviour that is affecting my internal choices?” I do want to talk about how each of us have several emotions and then a true feeling/knowing that goes on within our heart and mind as we are asking for new experiences. There is no greater gift we can give ourselves than to be able to see up front and personal how the little child and our learned behaviours are only visible when we are beginning to take charge of our emotional well being. That is because our learned behaviours are incorporated to support a small inner child that at a very early age, because of a story we lived through, without having a Guardian walk with us through the experience so that even as a tiny child we are shown when we could of made a different choice and how that different choice would have showed us how differently the story could’ve been.