I would like to talk about self love and why you may not be able to explain to me where you have your Self love hidden. First of all you must truly sit down and look at where your Self Love is. Hmmm… think about this, what truly is Self Love? You would think that your Self Love would be at the top of your thought chain. You would be able to give example after example of when and how you show your Self Love to yourself all the time.
What does sharing do for your spiritual walk? Are you willing to begin opening up your heart to the stories that you have told about your life? The very first thing that you must begin doing is simply share your story. So many people that I talk with have so isolated themselves in their very own life. Yes, that is correct. They have friends and family, they work, they even laugh and seem to be happy with their lives. Yet it is that kind of person that comes to me and they are so terribly sad with everything that is going on.
Do you spend time getting to know your thoughts? One of the tools that I use with students and clients is that they should take a look at their random thoughts and just follow one thread and see where it takes them. Now you would think that would be a simple enough act, but do you know that most people cannot take more than 30 seconds on any thought?
One of the things that I spend a lot of time working on with my students and clients is that once you begin to start communicating with yourself and others and for the first time you are feeling the effects of that communications, you can get hit by emotions when people do not recognize that you are trying to reunite with old friends and family. Because you have had stories that you have used to keep you from participating with your loved ones they have gotten used to a certain kind of behaviour from you.
A question that is often asked is “How do I know when it is my small inner child or a learned behaviour that is affecting my internal choices?” I do want to talk about how each of us have several emotions and then a true feeling/knowing that goes on within our heart and mind as we are asking for new experiences. There is no greater gift we can give ourselves than to be able to see up front and personal how the little child and our learned behaviours are only visible when we are beginning to take charge of our emotional well being. That is because our learned behaviours are incorporated to support a small inner child that at a very early age, because of a story we lived through, without having a Guardian walk with us through the experience so that even as a tiny child we are shown when we could of made a different choice and how that different choice would have showed us how differently the story could’ve been.
So you are living your life… it is going wonderfully… yet you keep having these emotions that would in the past have you reacting with upsetness. Yet you can recognize it is not the person or persons you are with that is creating the scenario that should have you reacting internally as you are. What is going on?
It is very important to see how often you deflect yourself from truly hearing your inner truths. When it seems that conflict is coming at you the first thing you can do to defuse the situation is to, with all sincerity, ask a question. Yes, you read that correctly. It is not about defending yourself. Let me tell you why. You will always know when you are sitting in the Universal truth. The reason why is that everyone on this planet will know the minute they hear truth. So remember, if you are being questioned at all it is because you have asked for the understanding of what it is that is on your mind .
I would like to talk about learned behaviors. These are behaviors that you learned that were meant to serve as a temporary safety net but you lost sight of that. So now we need to talk about how easily you can deflect yourself from finding out the learned behaviors that are now keeping you from standing in your responsibilities and the accountabilities of making the changes to your thoughts and feelings and learning how to use your emotions as the very tool that will change your life.
Each day you are going to want to take a look at the steps you took yesterday. How did you do in your communications with yourself? The way you know is by the interactions that you are having not only with those most intimate with you but how are you also interacting with acquaintances, and with people you are just meeting? How about people you are talking with on the phone or while walking into a gas station?
Let’s look at a question that will lead you to the discovery of the internal you. Why are you on this quest? When I ask the question and use the term ‘quest’ it is not to have you walk into a fantasy world like Dungeon and Dragon’s, it is for you to begin to look at the truth that this walk to Universal Truth is not just to fix your hurt emotions that you have been storing up since you can remember.