I think another of the hard things about communication is when one person is communicating and the other person is slinging stuff to get out of talking altogether. This is where choices on our part have to come in. We must start asking ourselves, how important is this person in our lives?
Communication, communication, communication, is the word for the day. Why is this word so very important? The first thing that you truly want to look at is I am not talking about communication with someone else, I am talking about how you are communicating with yourself. I know I keep harping on this but this is the most important communication you can have to change your life.
I know I spend a lot of time on communication and how the most important person to learn to communicate with is yourself. I know I share that you need to be brutally honest with yourself, and that does not mean that you should beat yourself up. It means when you are thinking about an invitation to participate, whether it is directly about you or one of your family or friends, you must talk to yourself like you do when you are sharing secrets about you to that special person that you can share anything with. When it comes to those deep secrets, it should really be you first, then share with others.
So how do you feel your communications skills are today as you begin to see changes in your world? Yet with those very special people in your life you are still feeling confused and not being heard by them. So how important is it to you to break down and understand why it is so important for you to be heard and understood by them?
Okay, I know I have been spending a lot of time writing about talking to yourself and truly communicating with yourself. Understand that it is very easy to slip into talking to yourself rather than truly communicating. It is not easy to break old habits and beliefs about the truth of this world that we live in.
How do you maintain these new concepts of communication? You can see the benefits of communicating with yourself because you are seeing real changes in your world, yet there are still hiccups. Why do you think it happens that when you are trying to express the truth about you the feedback that you get is of mistrust or anger or frustrations or any and all of those emotions that create so much havoc with your heart?
When you begin to see that you are talking but nothing is happening to make changes in your life expression, it is up to you to begin a process to find out why you have the opinions and beliefs that support the very lifestyle that you no longer desire.
I have spent the last couple of weeks talking about the difference between talking and communicating; sharing many facets of how you talk to fill space in the air around you vs really having a communication with others which in turn is the process of allowing yourselves to hear the thoughts that are going on within your own minds.
When you have come to a place where you are starting to have an understanding of how to communicate with self, you now realize that the one piece that was missing was how to ask yourself questions that get you below the surface of the art of talking.
What is the art of communication? So many of you are telling me no one hears you, you talk and talk and share you intimate feelings and yet you are not being heard. Well, I have a question for you… What is talking and what is communicating? They are two totally different things. Is is possible that all you do is talk and not really communicate your real feelings and emotions?