Well last evening while class was in session we spent a lot of time talking about how successful you feel when you begin to truly share your thoughts and feelings. Some of the students shared their experiences and choices they made when they thought that their need was not going to manifest for them and how when that happened they shut down.
I am spending a lot of time on the concepts talking to one’s self vs the true form of communications with one’s self. I know you use words that formulate into sentences and you then use these sentences as a form of talking with those around you. Do you get frustrated when those around you either did not hear your talking or they did not understand what you were expressing to them, which then ended up having a misunderstanding between you and them?
I think another of the hard things about communicating is when one person is communicating and the other person is slinging stuff to get out of talking altogether. This is where choices on our part have to come in. We must start asking ourselves, how important is this person in our lives?
I know this can start to sound harsh. Yet if this person does not want to really communicate and refuses to have any part in changing their form of talking to you, you must look at why you are in the relationship.
Have you been ever trying to express your feelings with someone, and they keep trying to throw other issues into the mix? Do you maintain the expressing of your feelings? Or do you get caught up in the side issues?
It is continuing the expressing of your feelings that is communicating. I have seen where that seems to be almost impossible, when you are speaking to someone who wants to keep the story about themselves. I am talking about that person that seems to walk around with, “I knew it was going to be my fault!”.