I have been watching and working with couples and I often see when people have stories that have been with them about how they feel about their life before they met the person they choose to share their life with. I hear from both sides how they assume that the other person is the one that should give validation of the things they do in the Universe called their life. I have heard how they share how they would comply with the wishes with the other as though they really cared yet then proceeded to talk the other one into the real way they wanted things to go.
Okay, you have just made some choices and you were in the mindset of ‘I am going to teach this person finally how to really communicate with me.’ You are in such excitement you do not think about anything except the joy that this one person that you have chosen must see you for who you are. You are so excited that you can hardly contain yourself. You have done it, you have learned how to stand in your boundaries with this person you have deemed as the one that can validate you and when they see the light of your font of wisdom you will know you have finally made your mark. Continue reading
When we come to a place where we desire to begin in a new place, how do we go about using the proper tools that will change our lives? How do we learn the truth about how we became who we are and let go of what we used to use as our identity of self? I think these questions are the ones most asked of me. Not right away of course, because when someone comes to me they are at the end of their hopes.
The more I began to realize that my mind chatter was all the voices that pushed me past my own boundaries as I was growing up, the more I began to see that there was and is a way of unraveling and truly quieting the chatter . There comes a time when the mind chatter fades away all together; Where the only voice you will hear is the one that is the true voice of your internal God essence.
How did I find this out? Well, I cannot say that it is easy, unless you are ready to change. Once that is the walk that a person is taking , you really do learn to hold yourself accountable in a way that always puts you first in any scenario. Some people call this selfish. I have always called it, Self is necessary. I say this over and over to my clients and students . For without you what is there? Continue reading
You have already taken the time to re-establish them. Then as soon as you stop participation with the parameter it goes right back to non-compliance.
What would you do? What makes one individual more aware of the parameter than others? Why would you be told that to stand in the true parameter is not the neighborly way?
Whenever I start something new, I like to find out just how to play the game. Not short cuts, or the easy way. Just the way that gets you to your goal. A goal that I can be proud to say I participated with the whole.
So, what do you do if you find yourself in a game that was established before you came in. Yet, rules and regulations even documents were created to play in this game.
So, everything is spelled out for everyone that later comes into the game. Yet, when those rules and regulations are brought back out into the light even the beginning game players do not want to play that way. What are you as an individual to do?
Let us add something else to the mix . What if you have hundreds of thousands of dollars added to this mix? Continue reading