What is the reason that you excuse your bad behavior? Is it possible that you believe by claiming you have emotional scars you get to act badly to everyone around you? I have heard for a very long time that because of emotional scars you do not have to take accountability for how you behave today. Well, take the time with me and I shall show you by your actions and non-actions how those trauma’s were a direct result of your thoughts, your words and your deeds.
When I work with you one of the first things that seems to come up is the understanding of not to blame anyone or anything for where you are sitting. This is probably the first thing that we should tackle. I say this because it is the first and foremost issue that will get in your way to taking back your own power.
When I speak of being nice, what do you feel? What do think you are? Have you looked around at what is in your heart? I do not believe enough people, when they have anger erupt in their lives, look at what is in their heart. I believe that what they do is spend their time wondering and asking, “why did the other person do this to me? I am such a nice person.”