I have had a very interesting conversation with a woman today. She had commented that she had consciously put up walls, so that someone would come and tear it down. I commented back that the power actually is in our own hands. We should not expect someone else to come and prove that they are listening to us. Her answer was she was listening but…….
I think another of the hard things about communication is when one person is communicating and the other person is slinging stuff to get out of talking altogether. This is where choices on our part have to come in. We must start asking ourselves, how important is this person in our lives?
I think the hardest thing about having true communications with others is not getting lost in questioning what are facts and what is fiction with our stories and other peoples stories.
Have you ever been trying to express your feelings with someone, and they keep trying to throw other issues into the mix? Do you maintain the expressing of your feelings? Or do you get caught up in the side issues?
If we could see this world in a different light would we be willing to live differently? When we are caught in our everyday lives, do we believe that we can start over and change everything about ourselves? Well that is the very thing that I have spent the last 25 years working on with my clients.
How many of us are shown, from our earliest memories, that we make choices that causes the next physical experience? How many of us, when that physical experience feels really bad, look over the whole event and find where we could… and maybe should have made a different choice?
When we come to this point in our lives we are very excited. Are we ready to change how we look at the experiences that we have had in the past? To start looking at them as the person that directed how the story begins? To ask what characters we’re going to put in the plot, the sub-plot and the ending?
What happens in our lives that let’s us know that by changing our stories we are now on the right track? The answer is so different for each and every one of us. This is why when we go outside of ourselves for validation we are getting advice that does not quite fit our story. Continue reading