As I have said before, it will take discipline in the beginning to stop ourselves from being in the blame game. My clients and students and I spend much time right here. I do not like going past this place and understanding until they have gotten familiar with this concept.
This is why I suggest journaling, listen to your self talk, be very hard on yourself in the beginning. You want to hear where you sit on any subject. Where is your opinion on any subject. You must come into this with an open mind. As though you are a brand new baby.
I was speaking of being a child and as I am watching them as they first come to our plane of existence here. They have so much to learn. Then they get a Parent instead of a Guardian. You can see it everywhere with so many Mothers and Fathers.
I would like to talk about this process of getting to the truth. The truth about anger is we were basically scared and that made us feel ashamed. So, we decided to call it ‘being mad’. (We were maybe all of two years old.)
What I have found so interesting about understanding boundaries and parameters is that I have all the control over any and every thing that happens to me. It was such a huge secret yet so very simple to apply in my life.