It has been the subject of my classes for the past couple of weeks. I was surprised to see that most of the class did not know the difference between the two concepts. So much so, that they had some very frustrating following weeks. So, let’s talk about these two parallel concepts.
First, I have been a Life Strategist for the past 14 years. I have worked with the concepts of the relationship of the physical ideas with the concept of the spiritual world around us. How the two work together, yet also stand beside each other.
To get an understanding of what boundaries and parameters do I have learned much about information that is available to us through meditation. How to connect with the internal truth of self.
As an individual I had to learn to stand in the Universal truth; nothing happened to me without me sitting in a feeling first. That was very confusing for me in the beginning. I, like so many others, wanted to go outside of myself to blame circumstances for my feelings getting hurt.
What does this have to do with boundaries and parameters?
Well as I was finding out about feelings, I came to realize that my internal feeling is, and was, my internal integrity… those were the boundaries. If I let myself walk over them, that is actually what was hurting my feelings.
Yet for a very long time I held my family, friends, children and even my spouse hostage for hurting my feelings!
The parameters are what we have total control over. It is each and every event that we plan for ourselves, with others. It is the physical experience that we have on a daily basis.
Parameters are easy to start utilizing so that we gain total choice in all we do. Oh, this sure sounds easy does it not? Well, I did not find it easy at all in the beginning.