When you know what is the very best thing for you to do, yet you feel guilty for living your life the way that is the very best, what do you do? I know this is speaking to you. It is a place where each of has to get.
I was talking with one of my clients and I was very impressed with how she was standing up for her parameters. She was having a small get together for her birthday. She had asked two people to go and she was going to pay. The next thing she knew, one of the people she asked started inviting another couple to the supper. She was triggered by this , but as she thought about this she enjoyed the company of the second couple so said nothing of the additional people. She did look at the cost of the group now going to be six instead of the original 4.
On my BlogTalk radio show Self Is Necessary, I was talking about standing in half-truths when making choices for someone else. As I was speaking I realized how it takes a discipline with great resolve for change to maintain making choices just for yourself. You have been making choices for you but really giving priority to what will be easiest for those in your life. In this way you have been making others more important. And you’ve been doing it this way for so long that it is now just a normal thought process.
To you a life change should be undertaking a process to change how you feel about yourself and how you interact in your physical experiences. When you do this, you recognize the power and control you have over your own life. It is when you no longer have the need to control your outside world or those people who are playing in your life.
When I work with you one of the first things that seems to come up is the understanding of not to blame anyone or anything for where you are sitting. This is probably the first thing that we should tackle. I say this because it is the first and foremost issue that will get in your way to taking back your own power.
When you get a strong understanding about not trying to get someone to accept why you have needs to be met and you learn how to simply fill your own needs, then you are beginning to take back the power of your life.
When you wake up in the morning and you have not slept well due to all the stress and issues in your life it is time to make a change. The kind of change that will affect the rest of your life. This is when you would seem to come to the decision to make a life change. Or would you decide to let life simply be?