Are we walking with no concern for others?

We make agreements, we set up parameters. So you find yourself in a spot where no one around you sees the need for the original boundaries and parameters.

You have already taken the time to re-establish them. Then as soon as you stop participation with the parameter it goes right back to non-compliance.

What would you do? What makes one individual more aware of the parameter than others? Why would you be told that to stand in the true parameter is not the neighborly way?

Whenever I start something new, I like to find out just how to play the game. Not short cuts, or the easy way. Just the way that gets you to your goal. A goal that I can be proud to say I participated with the whole.

So, what do you do if you find yourself in a game that was established before you came in. Yet, rules and regulations even documents were created to play in this game.

So, everything is spelled out for everyone that later comes into the game. Yet, when those rules and regulations are brought back out into the light even the beginning game players do not want to play that way. What are you as an individual to do?

Let us add something else to the mix . What if you have hundreds of thousands of dollars added to this mix? Continue reading

What is so hard about standing up for what you started?

Why is it, do you think, when you set up a parameter to play in, people change it and then claim that they do not want to play in it or stand up for what was originally started? This is a question that I have been pondering for a while. As I look at this question, I am asking myself several questions.

The first one..  I set up the parameter so that everyone that participated could really decide if they wanted to or not. I knew that a certain kind of attitude would need to be held and certain actions would have to be taken in order to participate… question would be: is that still happening ? Continue reading

Balance, why does it hurt someone else?

How do we have our life and center it without hurting someone else? I think this is the most often used question I hear from anyone I am working with.

When I give them the response that is in the truth, generally they do not like what they hear. Can you guess what I am about to say? “I am not working with anyone else. The options that we are speaking about are only for you.” That is right… that is what I say to them.  Continue reading

When is it my turn?

My turn. Why do I write these two words?

This is something that at a certain point of working with the understanding of responsibility and accountability, everyone comes and asks me about.

It is a time when my clients and students have been with me for a while and they are learning how to begin to fill their own needs. They are taking the responsibility of seeing their needs and filling them. Yet they have not quite understood how to let go of the idea that the other person showing up around an issue in their life is not stepping up also. Continue reading

Can you honestly say, “I have never cheated!”

I have been talking about what I have contemplated on about cheating. Yet, what does that mean to all of us? For as many people as there are on this planet there is half as many again ideas on this subject.

I think that once we begin to look at what is lying beneath our own feelings, we will see that our choices might be something so totally different then what we have claimed in the past. Why do I say this?

I say this because so many times as  I look at things I see that there is a microcosm and macrocosm to all and if I only look at the one side of any issue I only have half of the information to make my choice on. Continue reading

How and Why You Cheat on Yourself

Once again I would like to address cheating. I think this is a very important subject. I feel as we as a whole learn to understand how we can see a truth that is lying beneath the social consciousness we can take charge of our lives in a way that has not happened to us before.

There still would be ending of relationships as before but, we could move from one into another without such horrible pain and hatred that seems to go into such things. How is this do you ask? Well… Continue reading