As I have been watching and working with couples I see how often, when people have stories that have been with them about how they feel about their life before they met the person they choose to share their life with, I hear from both sides how they assume that the other person is the one that should give validation of the things they do in the Universe called their life. I have heard how they share how they would comply with the wishes with the other as though they really cared yet then proceeded to talk the other one into the real way they wanted things to go.
When you are learning to stand up for the new walk that you are taking what do you do when you find that those around you are now using information that leaves you vulnerable as you learn to share the deeper parts of who you are?
How do you ask a question of someone else when the subject is very near and dear to you? I am talking about those questions that affect how your inner child gets triggered and wants to make you scream and yell and even at times cry. Well I hope you know me well enough by now that of course I am going to go into the spiritual side of this question.
Have you found that there are days that when you are doing your evaluation of the things that are bugging you that you want to pout and say, “Why me?” Well I do remember asking myself that very thing. I would be going over the things that I needed to change about how I was responding to my world, the interaction with my husband and children, and like all of us I was trying very hard not to blame him or the children for what was making me mad at the time.
In class last night we spoke about how we walk and talk in spirit and forfeit are inner self when we look like we are making decisions that may not be popular with those around us, yet we know that it is the very best for everyone that is involved. How often do you find yourself knowing that something is totally right for you yet you do not follow through with it because of how you think others are going to feel about your choice?
What makes your life easier and easier? The first thing of course is to know and love the parameters that you are living in. Now this can seem like ‘why do I want to love the prison cell that I am living in?’ The secret is to remember you are in total charge of the size and conditions of that so-called cell. I know these words are really extreme yet some of your feelings about your life today are very extreme as well.
Communication, communication, communication, is the word for the day. Why is this word so very important? The first thing that you truly want to look at is I am not talking about communication with someone else, I am talking about how you are communicating with yourself. I know I keep harping on this but this is the most important communication you can have to change your life.
Okay let’s talk about when you are holding an energy for a creation and you can see it surfacing and yet it is not quite at your fingertips. What do you do to have your dreams come to reality and the most wonderful expression in your life? You are really going to be surprised but the fact is you keep doing what your doing.
In class last night the group spoke about the lessons that they were focusing on during the previous week. The main theme was how shame and guilt had prevented them from hearing words of wisdom that would have allowed them to hear truths about their stories much sooner. So I ask you how often, when information comes to you, do you deflect it away because it means you have to look at the choices you made in the past out of anger or fear or guilt?